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Are You In A Crazymaking Relationship?

Want to know some of the telltale signs that you are in a crazymaking relationship?

The things that point to - is it’s a relationship problem and not a me problem?



Here’s the list:

  • You obsessively try to control other people

  • Allow others to use you

  • You are reacting rather than responding

  • You can only see what is right in front of you and don’t plan for the big picture

  • Constantly worry, worry, worry

  • Ignore your own feelings

  • Know what everyone else wants and feels better than what you want and feel

  • Expect perfection from yourselves and others

  • Judge yourself and others critically

  • Compulsively take care of other people and don’t know how to take care of yourself

  • Don’t know how to have FUN

  • Don’t know what you like

  • Always focus on what is wrong

  • Avoid conflict at all cost


You may be thinking that you are not enough or what you do is not enough. That you don’t matter or what you do for your family doesn’t matter. That your feelings are wrong and no one respects you. You find yourself constantly taking on someone else’s problems.


And here are some of the unspoken rules that may exist in your relationship:

  • don’t speak about what is going on inside the relationship

  • don’t show your feelings, especially anger - usually only one person in the relationship is allowed to be mad and it’s probably not you

  • work super hard, don’t rest, don’t mess up, and be perfect all the time

  • set unrealistic expectations and then tear yourself down when you aren’t able to meet them


Does this list make you stop and think? Are you stuck in a relationship and not sure if it’s a relationship problem or a partner problem? Let’s schedule a time to talk and see if we can get you unstuck.


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